Okay, let’s discuss something serious today. What are your views on infidelity? How do you even begin to define infidelity?
Does it mean as long as you do not cheat on your partners physically, it would not be classified as infidelity? Then in this case, would virtual relationships not be considered as a form of infidelity?
For me, infidelity has many levels. One does not necessarily have to be sleeping with another person or having a physical relationship with others to be considered as cheating. Emotional betrayal counts just as much as physical betrayal. I, for one, could never tolerate it if my other half engages in a virtual relationship with someone else. That would come as a serious blow because I’d think what was the matter with our relationship that causes my other half to want to seek solace with someone else.
One might argue that cyber relationships are all conducted in the virtual world and therefore would not disrupt the real world. But think, when you engage yourself in a virtual relationship, surely your life would be affected as time passes on. You’d spend more time online, you might even get too emotionally attached to your virtual partner. And what happens then? Can you still honestly say that you’re loyal to your real life partner?
Another form of infidelity is of course, the one where you engage yourself in a physical relationship with another person other than your other half. Most of these people lead double lives, with the third wheel either conscious or unconscious of the other person’s existence. The original other half is of course, usually uninformed.
I wonder why anyone would do something like that. Does it give you a thrill because you were able to fool your partners into thinking that they’re the only one for you? Do you feel the ego boost because you can have two people fawning over you at the same time? Is it more fun to juggle double lives and see how far your lies can stretch?
In some cases, the other half is actually aware of the cheating, yet chooses to turn a blind eye to it. This kind of people baffles me. I could never see the logic or reasoning behind such actions. You are aware that your partner is treating you like a fool and messing around with other people behind your back, but you’d rather ignore it and pretend that everything is fine and dandy. Do you honestly still think that your partner is very much in love with you? Do you think that one day he is just going to wake up and realise that he’s been an asshole all these while and just end the other relationship and come crawling back to you? The naivety!
To be fair, some hang on for the sake of security. They choose to ignore their partner’s cheating ways because they are financially dependent on their other half. If they lose their partner, they lose everything. These are forgivable, but it isn’t something I would do myself. I could never bring myself to pretend that everything is okay when it obviously isn’t.
People who know me will know that I have a rather prominent feminist streak in me. I do not believe in bowing down to men just because they’re stronger or make more money than I do. Feminist I might be, but I still believe in chivalry. But that’s beside the point. The point is, I would never bring myself to submit to someone else just because they are supposedly the stronger sex.
There are just so many things one could debate on about infidelity. I would love to hear your views. What constitute infidelity in your point of view? Are you the type of person who can tolerate such absurdity? Have you ever cheated on your other half? Come, dish!